Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationships

We often assume real connection grows out of ease and availability, but what if it's born from inconvenience? In this quickie, Yue shares how a new weekly commute to the Bay Area, and a weekend-only schedule in LA, changed the way she dates and keeps friendships. With limited time, her yeses became real yeses, and she can see who makes an effort to see her. She explains why many of her past relationships were born of convenience, how that can lead to situationships or incompatbile relationships, and why she now treats inconvenience as a structure that shows who really wants to invest in her. Whatever your schedule looks like, this episode will help you invest in yourself and spot the people who make the time. Enjoy!

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Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcasts The Psychology of Relationships and Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.

WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/

Have you ever had a time in your life where you genuinely didn’t want a serious relationship but still wanted connection and chemistry? Download the Fling app in the app store or visit fling.me today.

Want to remove distractions from your dates? Download Brick and get 10% off at https://www.getbrick.app/DATEABLE

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Have you ever wonder why you have seemingly great dates yet none of them seem to go anywhere? Yue used to have no problem having acing the date, and thought she's get the same feedback when we interviewed Andrew about their first date together. But the feedback she got changed her dating life forever and made it all make sense why these great dates never resulted in relationships. 10 years later, we're reflecting on the dating experiment that changed her entire dating trajectory because that's how instrumental it was for Yue's love life. We'll re-air the epic dating experiment and then we debrief on the essential shift from performative to authentic dating, how you actually build connection on a date, and why it's never too late to reset a date that's boring, awkward, or simply not going as well as you'd like (through a trick we'll share with you on this episode.) Enjoy!

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Take our Dating Archetypes quiz: https://howtobedateable.com/

Read our book: How To Be Dateable: The Essential Guide To Finding Your Person and Falling in Love: https://howtobedateable.com/

Try the Dateable AI Dating Coach: Get personalized advice trained on our years of podcast episodes, courses and frameworks: https://studio.com/dateable

Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcasts The Psychology of Relationships and Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.

WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/

Have you ever had a time in your life where you genuinely didn’t want a serious relationship but still wanted connection and chemistry? Download the Fling app in the app store or visit fling.me today.

Want to remove distractions from your dates? Download Brick and get 10% off at https://www.getbrick.app/DATEABLE

Our Sponsors:
* Quince: Download the Quince App for app-exclusive offers and get free shipping and 365 day returns at https://quince.com and tell them you heard about them through Dateable to support the show!


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Halloween is one of the best nights of the year to meet someone, but what makes it so much easier to strike up a conversation with a stranger? In this episode, Julie explores what makes Halloween feel different from an ordinary night out, from the costumes and easy conversation starters to the shared sense of fun and possibility. But what if you didn't have to wait until Halloween to experience that kind of connection? She looks at how we can recreate that same energy any night of the year and make meeting new people feel a little more natural, spontaneous, and fun. Enjoy!

Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/

Read our book: How To Be Dateable: The Essential Guide To Finding Your Person and Falling in Love: https://howtobedateable.com/

Try the Dateable AI Dating Coach: Get personalized advice trained on our years of podcast episodes, courses and frameworks: https://studio.com/dateable

Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcasts The Psychology of Relationships and Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.

WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/

Have you ever had a time in your life where you genuinely didn’t want a serious relationship but still wanted connection and chemistry? Download the Fling app in the app store or visit fling.me today.

Want to remove distractions from your dates? Download Brick and get 10% off at https://www.getbrick.app/DATEABLE

Our Sponsors:
* Quince: Download the Quince App for app-exclusive offers and get free shipping and 365 day returns at https://quince.com and tell them you heard about them through Dateable to support the show!


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What does it take to stay open to love when life has given you plenty of reasons to close yourself off? Today we’re joined by Robin Ducharme to talk about becoming “real love ready” – not by having a perfect relationship history, but by learning from the heartbreak, loss, and love we’ve experienced along the way. We discuss how to learn to trust ourselves again after being hurt, why there’s no such thing as a “failed” relationship, and how despite some of the most painful experiences with relationships you can still choose connection, hope, and love despite it all. Enjoy!

Trigger warning: This episode includes discussion of narcissistic abuse, emotionally destructive relationships, death and grief, and the loss of close family members. Please take care of yourself while listening.

To learn more about Robin, follow her at @realloveready and visit https://www.realloveready.com/

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Take our Dating Archetypes quiz: https://howtobedateable.com/

Read our book: How To Be Dateable: The Essential Guide To Finding Your Person and Falling in Love: https://howtobedateable.com/

Try the Dateable AI Dating Coach: Get personalized advice trained on our years of podcast episodes, courses and frameworks: https://studio.com/dateable

Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcasts The Psychology of Relationships and Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.

WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/

Have you ever had a time in your life where you genuinely didn’t want a serious relationship but still wanted connection and chemistry? Download the Fling app in the app store or visit fling.me today.

Want to remove distractions from your dates? Download Brick and get 10% off at https://www.getbrick.app/DATEABLE

Our Sponsors:
* Quince: Download the Quince App for app-exclusive offers and get free shipping and 365 day returns at https://quince.com and tell them you heard about them through Dateable to support the show!


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Have you ever had a date where you talked for hours about your childhood, your deepest wounds, your hopes, your fears, maybe even slept together, and walked away thinking, Wow, we really connected? Only to have them disappear, pull away, or tell you they’re not looking for a relationship? We’re unpacking the difference between feeling intimate and actually building intimacy, and how you can create a level of closeness that feels earned, not performative or forced. We discuss how intensity often makes us feel close to someone in a way that burns out , why intimacy is not just vulnerability, sex, or trauma dumping, and ways you build the type of intimacy that feels natural even on a first date . Enjoy!

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Take our Dating Archetypes quiz: https://howtobedateable.com/

Read our book: How To Be Dateable: The Essential Guide To Finding Your Person and Falling in Love: https://howtobedateable.com/

Try the Dateable AI Dating Coach: Get personalized advice trained on our years of podcast episodes, courses and frameworks: https://studio.com/dateable

Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcasts The Psychology of Relationships and Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.

WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/

Have you ever had a time in your life where you genuinely didn’t want a serious relationship but still wanted connection and chemistry? Download the Fling app in the app store or visit fling.me today.

Want to remove distractions from your dates? Download Brick and get 10% off at https://www.getbrick.app/DATEABLE

Our Sponsors:
* Quince: Download the Quince App for app-exclusive offers and get free shipping and 365 day returns at https://quince.com and tell them you heard about them through Dateable to support the show!


Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy